“Before you know kindness as the deepest thing inside,
you must know sorrow as the other deepest thing.
You must wake up with sorrow.
You must speak to it till your voice
catches the thread of all sorrows
and you see the size of the cloth.”
~Naomi Shihab Nye
“And love is love is love is love is love is love is love is love.”
~Lin-Manuel Miranda
for my daughter, Miranda
Before you know what love really is
You have to strip yourself
Of everything
Every feeling
Every article of clothing
Every sound
Taste
Smell
Get rid of it all
Every material thing
You ever felt
You have to get rid
Of what you thought love is/or was
You have to give birth
(or hold a child
or a butterfly
or a miracle
or faith
or race your horse across an empty cornfield
without bit or saddle)
Love is love unaware
Of anything
But everything
Like bravery
Like a caterpillar spreading her wings
Knowing she doesn’t yet have wings
You too, don’t need wings
Because you already know how to fly
As you grand jeté
Landing softly but with firmness
Only a mountain understands
A thousand years later
As the sun sets and kisses Earth goodnight
A mother rocks
Nurses
Coos
Her golden, littlest love to sleep
Before you know what love is
You have to empty your soul
Like a yogi
Empties breath
All the way out until lung is flat
And the heart muscle has to remember
How to pump
Because life is not without
Hope
It has to have hope
Else we drown
One
By
One
Until it is just Adam and Eve, again
Standing naked
But this time they don’t see
Because they’re blind
And maybe this time
We’ll get it right
We’ll all fall into an abyss
And swim, and swim
We’ll be familiar with the
Darkness
Because we never knew anything else
Like we are back inside the
Womb
From which we all came
A quiet blackness
Of warmth
Of love
Safe
Content
Alone
Before you know what love is
You have to empty your pockets all the way out
And still believe
You are whole
You are brave
© Gina Marselle
May 28, 2020

Wow. Yes. I believe it’s true. It took me most of my life, but I do know what love is now.
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